Please advise me i'm getting disturbed over this
Marriage
Anonymous Oct 7, 10:36 AM

Please advise me i'm getting disturbed over this 0

Excuse my language but in don't know where else to ask because i am shy and i seriously need advise. my husband of 4 years suddenly one night during our marital affairs said I have to suck his ****, I told him gaskiya i can't shikenan fa he became angry the next morning i asked him why is he still angry and tried to resolve it with him and he told me "idan bazakiyi akwai wadda zatayi min ai". yanzu hankali na a tashe yake because idan ya fita i am getting serious anxiety on what he may be doing outside and he has been unfriendly since then. this happened 4 days ago. it is affecting my mental health please i need advice,
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Anonymous #1 Oct 7, 11:09 AM
you should calmly talk to him maybe he said that out of anger and he doesn’t mean it kuma what he asked for is not haram
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Yasmeen Oct 7, 12:06 PM

Madam Poster, I see nothing wrong with abunda ya tambaya, ba haramun bane iji Malaman sunna. Medically ma ba laifi gaskia. Allah ya bamu na qwarai mu musu abinda ya dace. I come in peace
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Anonymous #4 Oct 7, 12:08 PM
hajia there’s nothing wrong a abnda ya tambaya because it’s not haraam. mijinki ne kiyi duk abnda zaisa yaji dadi. mijinki ne ko bakijin komai ki bada himma wurin yi mashi abnda zaiji dadi idan baki mashi ba toh ina kikeso yaje ayi mashi,,idan kinfiso ya fita yaje ya nema wasu matan a waje toh ki cigaba da denying abu
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MARYAMmiimie Oct 7, 12:24 PM
Madam when he gets back home, dress sexy and do to him what he asked of you. Before he gets back make research and learn the right way to do it cos I feel it's almost as if you deprives him of sex. Mijinki me ba haram ba me.
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Anonymous #5 Oct 7, 01:35 PM
Assalamuaikum Malama, it is permissible to practice oral sex, as long as semen, vaginal fluids are not swallowed, it's just like kissing. "Sheikh `Abd al-Wahhâb al-Turayrî says that the Prophet is not against oral sex as he makes no mention of it. Anything that is not clearly opposed or made unlawful by the Prophet is permissible. The Shafi`is and Hanbali doctrines consider sperm to be pure but state that it is unlawful to swallow the fluid. If the bodily fluids aren't swallowed then oral sex is no different from kissing various parts of the body, which is is allowed for Muslims. But couples may not indulge in it to such a degree that oral replaces normal intercourse. The Hanbali followers of Islam say that even though Muslim couples don't swallow seminal fluid, those who participate in oral sex should always rinse their mouths after the act as part of Islamic purification."
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Anonymous Oct 7, 04:20 PM
Thank you for the information and advice, I will try and do it for peace but i'm still not comfortable about it but i do appreciate each of your comments. This forum is a very good idea, because i can have never talked to any person abun akwai kunya sosai.
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Aleeyu Muhammad kabeer fagge Oct 9, 08:28 PM

nidai yarone 🏃🏃
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Anonymous #3 Oct 9, 11:34 PM

there may not be anything wrong with it, but she doesn't want to, its important that men understand the word "no". refusing to do it should not be an excuse to go and cheat.
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Anonymous #3 Oct 9, 11:41 PM
as salam alaikum sister. I understand this might be worrying for you. everyone says it's not haram. yes it's not. but, if you don't want to, you don't have to. it's something both of should enjoy. if you're forced to do it, neither of you will like it. he should also have the decency to understand "NO, I DON'T WANT TO" the least he could do is to try again later on and explain to you why he asked for it and how you both might enjoy and allow you space to agree or disagree. it's a bit childish for him to threaten you with cheating.
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Mabroukha Oct 10, 03:37 PM
try n do as ur husband wants it to be done to him. Ba haram in bane. u can also ask for that too.
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Ayshah Omar Oct 12, 10:56 PM
I suggest you should attend Manzil’s amarya or uwargida classes you’ll learn a lot
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Yazeed Nov 10, 06:08 PM

but as a wife she won't be happy when she ask her husband and he denied pls let's try and do justice to each other
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Rukky03 Nov 14, 11:28 AM

yea, your reply is same as white people saying "all lives matter" during a black lives matter protest. everybody deserves the right to say no to things they don't want to do.
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