I'M URGENTLY IN NEED OF ADVICE

Keep it yo yourself alone. Don't tell anybody including your spouse even after 50years of the marriage. what is the benefit. You can forgive the guy as Allah loves those who forgive but dont have anything to do with him for life. Forgiving him will also set your mind free though I know its painful and unforgettable

sister don't u tell ur fiancee no matter what, it's a secret between u ND ur lord ND for him the destroyer s left for u to check within urself if u can forgv ND forget P.S don't tell ur husband.

dear sister never tell anyone abt dis secret,take it to ur grave.

thank you for the advice. I'll keep praying for the strength to forgive him

Ok. thank you

But what if my husband finds out I'm not a virgin? won't that jeopardize our marriage if i can't give him any explanation?

this is what we called secret u can’t spew it out…may Allah keep protecting us🤲🏽

Assalamuaikum my advice to you is to tell him, since it's not your fault

he may or may not find out...But this one's tricky I think you should tell him...

You shouldn't tell him gaskiya..May Allah S.W.A gives you the strength to forget about it, Also if ur husband finds out that u ain't a virgin, there are many ways of loosing virginity, For Example slipping and falling down, riding a horse, u can choose any of the above or much better and tell him, i just hope he is the understanding type, plus it would be better if he didn't notice bcos u didn't do it intentionally And Insha Allah u will have a very happy marriage and i will also advice you to forgive the sinner that caused ur pain in the first place, i think that is the only way u will forget about everything and move on with your life, if u didn't forgive him trust me, u will never forget about it...May Allah S.W.A forgive us all.. May Allah Bless you sister.

You must not tell your husband, but if he finds out you are not a virgin it is better you tell him the real story, that is if issue arises.

I think if the husbands find out she should not make up any story but tell him the truth, Trust and sincerity are very important in a relationship and even qualities of a person. It will be wrong for her to lie to her husband in that way by telling him she rode a horse or whatever that is a lying but if he does not find out then she shouldn't have to tell him. I am a man and i value trust and sincerity more than anything and it wouldn't be funny if i find my wife lying to me in a serious issue like this.

TBVH, don't tell your to-br husband, secondly, just forgive him just as how you want Allaah to forgive you your own sins which you committed. Allaahu a'alam

Am so sorry for the lost Allah ya jikan ta May her soul RIJF my own advice here is u should tell ur husband to be that this what has happened to u in the past.some people here are telling to to keep it to itself what if after the marriage he finds out that u are not a virgin then something huge will come up and he will be like u have betrayed him so u better tell him the truth no matter what the circumstances might be

of course pls sister just try and tell him the truth no matter what the circumstances might be pls

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Please don’t let anyone know what happened to you

first I will Advice you to Forgive this Brother tunda Ya Nema Gafara. What If The Forgiveness is what Will take you to jannah... we All Know Aikin mu bazai Kaimu Aljannah bah. sai Rahman Allah ( SWA ).so Try and Forgive him. and Your Husband Don't Tell Him Ki barshi sakanin ki Da Allah Kwai.

Im having issues tapping replies but anyways i have my reason why i said she shouldn't tell him the truth, first of all, not any man will be happy to knw that his wife have been raped, and the first question he will ask her is why she didn't tell him in the first place, walh if it were me, i will feel betrayed and i will hardly trust her and it will be a real pain in my life, so if u guys are seriously asking her to tell him the truth if he asked, then she should tell him now otherwise she might not knw how he will feel when she does tell him if he asked after the marriage, i knw it is always bad to lie, but some lies are worth telling, im speaking for myself here, like im trying to tell how i will feel as a guy..So sister i knw this might sound confusing but u have to make a very tough decision bcos ur man might be very nice, loving and caring but u will never knw what he can or can't do, be very careful please.. Thank you

My advice here is you should tell your Fiancé… If not your relationship will be building in a lie

I don’t think you should tell him

dear poster if you forgive him you are not doing it for him you are doing it for yourself it will bring you nothing but peace it’s been years since it happened and now you are about to enter a new phase of your life please don’t tell your husband anything Allah has concealed it don’t open it to anyone Allah ya baku zaman lafiya

My dear.. First find a place in your heart to forgive your nephew and Insha'Allah Allah will be pleased with you too. As for your husband to be, find the courage to tell him right away, after all it's not your fault and it's in the past.. I believe if he loves you he will take it and respect you too. There's no hidden secrets on earth, it will be more disasterous for you if he finds out some day.. Don't undermine the power of the shythan. May Allah make it easy for 🙏🏽

Her forgiving him is very personal and she must have gone through alot, if i was her i will not forgive him and he shall be punished for what he did. I agree she should not tell her husband unless the issue come up then she shouldn't lie.

I agree with you