part 10: Healing after heartbreak (selflove, self growth and self care)
Anonymous Apr 18, 06:24 PM

part 10: Healing after heartbreak (selflove, self growth and self care) 0

I pray every day for Allah SWA to grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. This Ramadan alhamdulillah I made a conscious decision to delete any means of contact 😞 yay meπŸ’ƒπŸ’ƒπŸ’ƒ, I accepted I love this person, he doesn't share my feelings and that's ok! Focusing on the things I can change;I started exploring new things, new friends, getting out more and expanding my horizon, discovering myself,giving other things a chance, improving my health, doing what makes me happy. Making myself busy. On the relationship front I am taking a pause, I pray sometime in the future to have someone I love who loves me as much or even more. I know where I am at now emotionally I may not be able to fall in love, and am ok with it, fam any advice?
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His queeen Apr 18, 11:48 PM
masha Allah
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Anonymous #1 Apr 20, 06:43 AM
Alhamdulillah am very excited to go through part 10 and I am very happy for you 😊 everyone has his/her destiny. why is it that most of the time 2 heart doesn't share the same feelings for each other. anyway let me keep shut I'll advise you to enjoy your company for now and double your prayer Γ— of what you did during Ramadan. believe in Allah, ask for good, trustworthy, lovely and supportive company. I'll ask for a favor plz. there's this cubby beb that I really love her. I don't know how you feel about love but surely knows how love is. I don't want to say much but
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Anonymous Apr 20, 10:18 PM
Anonymous #1 Apr 21, 06:14 AM

Yes and everyone her siblings, frnds and some of her cousins cos one of them is my opponent even though I overpowered him. but what gives me headache is that I hardly meet this girl like hang out even in a while. I make sure I always wanna make her happy but it looks like we don't share the same feelings. At our earlier stage of relationship everything is going smoothly even though I met her in person ones in 6 months so I feel like I am dating myself and the most annoying part is I like that's girl die oo. am the mjnd of guy that don't mingle around to toast ladies cos that's how I am and how I grew up. on top of that I always wanna be loyal to my beb (virtual beb wey I no get attention 4 am) what makes me sad is that why is it that those whom genuinely wanna spoil their partner with love and everything they have in life don't get chance to meet one that will share same energy and love to each other.
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Anonymous Apr 21, 09:46 AM

I understand you, am that kind of person too, if I choose you am loyal to the core, not to talk of love, in the society we live in not many ppl are like that, they like to play emotional games, sad really because that's what is causing a lot of problems. the question here is, is it a long relationship? am sorry but I have to ask! are u in love with her because u don't have access to her? because that's the case for a lot of ppl,they are attracted to the struggle and the chase! what's preventing you from having access to her? her parent? or her doing? are you all in, not just the determination of spoiling the woman/girl you love but the sacrifice that might come with it. how often do u communicate?
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Anonymous #1 Apr 21, 02:59 PM

Yeah! No, it's not D/relationship According to her, her Dad but I don't know wether it's her doing or not. but whenever I ask for meetup she gives excuses but always claims she loves me. almost everyday Hardly for her to start any conversation but when I initiated it, I might spend 20-30 minutes waiting for her reply. when I ask she'll said she don't know what to say and I took much complain imagineπŸ€” just because I took much care about her.
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Anonymous Apr 21, 08:29 PM

πŸ€” my brother I am sorry but irrespective of gender we make time for the ppl that mattered to us! gone are days when this kind of restrictions are possible. phone makes it easy for access. if she loves u she will find a way to talk to u see u even if it's video calls, it may be not be long, u may not talk on the video but to see ur face, exchange of smile etc. there is always a way believe me.... am sorry to break it to you! but u might be her safe Nate or u serve a purpose as the case may be. may be it's time for u to start checking ur feelings and attachment, talk to her, for adjustment if she's serious about u she will change. if she didn't, start mending your broken heart
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Anonymous #1 Apr 21, 08:44 PM

hmmm Omo dey thing vex me. My heart isn't broke sis bcos na stone heart I get and also soft 4 one wey deserve it. I lost my mama about 13 yrs ago so nothing go make me wey I no get rid of it
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Anonymous Apr 21, 10:19 PM

Allah ya jikan mama, Yasa tana aljanna firdausi Amin, I lost a parent too. i know how it feels, I was like that too until I wasn't even though it's just with one person. so what I didn't tell u is am autistic, I have to learn to socialize with ppl,I can stay in my room for ages I wouldn't mind, I worked on myself, how to mingle, be friendly, accommodating with ppl on a professional level . nothing comes easy for me, I have to learn miskilace ne sosai fa! but am the kind of person that like to learn things, I put myself thru self help classes online since when ppl don't use Internet like now, I was able to perfect how to accommodate ppl, I never care about braking up with any one, but if I want intend to accommodate u, I try my best to make u feel loved, important,cared for and mattered in every way possible, I will fight for u! but if u become difficult I will just off my emotional attachment in a heartbeat.even my marriage i give it all but when push come to shove I opted out and then mid 30's as Allah SWA will have it, I fall in love for the 1st time, he bears one of the prophet's name. he did everything there is to do to make me hate him but my mind depends him in every way possible, despite all my efforts to forget about him, I dreamed about him even yesterday, I pray for his happiness and success in life every sujood I will make, even without me I wish him the best of the best in life. I pray for happiness that lasts, heart filled with gratitude, home with love and happiness, strengthen faith, and grace into every corner of his life. my brother u are having it easy
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Anonymous #1 Apr 22, 06:42 AM

Ameen ya Hayyu ya Qayyumu jazakallahu khairan even with all what gone through bcos of this man you still dream of him, pray for him to find peace, love and best of the best in lifeπŸ₯ΊπŸ’” your own issues pass mine but what makes me sad is that, why should a person find this kinda partner and still let her go even though she don't wanna separate with him. love isn't about looks because it fade out money cos u may end up bankrupt love is all about supporting each other, having affection, depending each other etc. may Allah subhanahu waata'ala make it easy for us. but I pity you sis u really going through a lot
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Anonymous #1 Apr 22, 06:56 AM
πŸ˜±πŸ’Ž Am really sorry sis. am sure any man that luckily get this kind love he should just keep sending salawat and istigfar cos he's blessed. may we find same love and energy. may we not fall in love with a ghost partner
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Anonymous Apr 22, 09:30 AM

I know,I pity myself too, 😭 am thankful for the kind of heart Allah blessed me with, I try to see the best in ppl no matter what, Alhamdulillah ala kulli hal, I always count my blessings and be thankful for them
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Anonymous Apr 22, 09:33 AM

Amin ya hayyu ya kayyum jazakallahu khair, as human most often we don't know the value of what u have until we lost it and we don't appreciate it until someone shows us shegeπŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚,but I pray they have what they are looking for and we have the partners we deserve in Sha Allah
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Anonymous #1 Apr 22, 01:31 PM

wlh that's true. people don't value what until someone's show Dem shege promax. in Sha Allah very soon we gonna get partners that deserves our energy. I'm the kind of person that if I am in relationships with someone, I just stick with her and all my energy and everything. subhanah πŸ₯²
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Anonymous #1 Apr 22, 01:37 PM

that's love for you love is stupid love is blind love will makes you to be like you don't value your feelings. because of this pure heart am sure in Sha Allah you'll find peace forever. و Ψ§Ω† يحب Ψ§Ω„Ω„Ω‡ if you wanna love someone, loves him because of Allah then this ur deed maybe ticket of jann Firdausi for you in Sha Allah you will find peace. am just imagining having chance to get in that guy shoes πŸ₯Ί Allah baya bawa Mai wuka nama
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Anonymous Apr 22, 02:57 PM

in Sha Allah with Allah everything is possible remember to be kind when u have it though 😁, keep me updated praying it's works out on ur end for the best am rooting for u πŸ’ͺ but be sure to notice the signs and check the concerns and don't settle for less πŸ‘
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Anonymous Apr 22, 07:31 PM
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am just trying to say u will get more than u pray for😊
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Anonymous #1 Apr 22, 09:50 PM

alright in Sha Allah thanks big sisto😊 I wished you same jazakallahu khairan Hmm this girl just gave me another headache an hour ago hmm. my problem is that I don't involve myself in multiple relationship. I can't even have a phone conversation with a lady concerning love. Omo life no balance may we find peace Ameen
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Anonymous Apr 23, 10:22 AM

multiple relationships not a good idea though! I believe if she loves u she'll get better,keep the faith πŸ‘
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Anonymous #1 Apr 23, 11:03 AM

🀣🀣 my heart dey boil oo some gist I no fit write am my problem is dat I can't date you while having relationship or give some people attention. i too much jealous
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Anonymous Apr 23, 02:12 PM

so sorr, love is pain I guess. jealousy of ur partner/ prospective is Sunnah! it's good for ur soul to avoid deception, kudos to you 😁! question 🧐what kind of relationship are u in? u don't see, and occasionally talk,🚢🚢🚢🚢
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Anonymous #1 Apr 23, 03:13 PM

thanks 4 ur concerned! jealous is part of pure love I guessed. don't mind sis I won't be deceived oo πŸ˜‚ I'm in a complicated relationship I don't see and occasionally talk rather than Distance R guess how many months now since I met her in person and have few minutes conversation??? whenever I asked for meetup she gives excuses saying "whenever I met you without the consent of my parents I feel guilty, I feel like I betrayed my parents" so for me to overcome that, I told her that I wanna send my folks to seek for her hands in marriage or let me say asking for their consent to know that am the one that's in relationships with their child. she said no I should wait and be patient. cos her dad wants her to continue with studies until graduated from institution. so he'll be mad at her if I send my folks.
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Anonymous Apr 23, 10:59 PM

πŸ€” no comment! may Allah make it easy on both of u. may she see light and recognize Tru love and embrace it and u have the patience to tolerate accomodate her
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