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I don't even know where to begin but i can't seem to be able to move on from my past relationship and when i say past i mean we broke up tun 2022 but one thing lead to another and we started seeing each other mid last year again( not really dating but irin we are back dai) so to cut the story short we went our ways again about two months ago. i didn't really felt anything then but yanzun my heart feels so heavy and I feel like i can never get someone as him again. And it's not like i haven't tried giving others a chance amma i haven't found someone that we connect well and someone that has the qualities that i want in a man

it's been about 4 years now and i really want to move on but something keeps dragging me back, a day hardly passes without me not seeing or hearing something that reminds me of him🤦🏻‍♀️

then if you love him this much, why won't you let him know. talk to him direct let him know your feelings

Keep Praying In Sha Allah Soon Allah will make the Best Choice For you

he knows, but the relationship isn't just working out. we tried before and we tried now and it isn't working

In Sha Allah

sometimes it happens like this, i may not say much because you have not revealed the reasons it is not working out. if you can share some details atleast i can give you some words or advice.

What you need to do is to assess the relationship entirely. Who causes the issues between the two of you that lead to the relationship failing? Why are you breaking up and reuniting again? what is lingering? Is he worth the trouble? Is relationship your only determinant for happiness or otherwise in your life? What is your major life's priorities? If you are able to answer these questions you will be able to forge a way forward. But you have to answer them honestly to yourself. If after your assessment and it's not worth it then call him, discuss and have a final closure. If he's worth it, find a way to get it back and involve your parents, if he refuses give up and have a closure. It seems you are young and just starting a relationship; if so, know that most people have passed through that stage. Most people don't end up with the persons they love most, so you are not alone and it's normal in life for things like this to happen. What matters is how you handle yourself and how your life and happiness matter to you and how you allow others to influence them for you. People that cope well are those that are resilient, strong and hopeful to move on despite all challenges, those that lose are those who are unable to see life as a test but expedting it to be always perfect. What will be will be, what will not be will not be. You need to pursue something in your life more than relationship. In fact your life plan should be your focus and priority. For now suspend anything relationship and pursue something that would build your life - it could be studies, skills acquisition, internship, volunteering etc - find something that will get you money, if you have money find something that's a passion and start it. Finally, always expect people to disappoint you, irrespective of who they are. So, when they finally disappoint you, you won't be surprised or devastated because you have already expected that. Your happiness is in your hands and once you give that to someone else you lose all the time.

I am going through similar issue, I let go my first and only love. I would suggest you delete anything on your phone or device that will remind you about him, come at peace with what Allah has ordained for you and trust that it is for the best, try to be more rational than emotional about your past relationship, understand that you are not getting younger anymore and you have a life to live ahead of you, been a good wife, good mother and a good daughter to your loving and aging parents, it's true you'll remember them daily because I guess you are a hard lover like myself, you have shared a lot of experiences and memories with them and have atune yourself to that, so you can't stop that, itcan even e forever, but time heals and eventually you may replace those memories. How you respond to those feelings is what matters the most, you should have learned a lesson by now, that they are nothing more than fleeting joy, it doesn't last and it does not mean the relationship will. If I'm right, I would advise you seek for someone that will love you more than you love them and train yourself to reciprocate the love.

I am going through similar issue, I let go my first and only love. I would suggest you delete anything on your phone or device that will remind you about him, come at peace with what Allah has ordained for you and trust that it is for the best, try to be more rational than emotional about your past relationship, understand that you are not getting younger anymore and you have a life to live ahead of you, been a good wife, good mother and a good daughter to your loving and aging parents. It's true you'll remember him daily because I guess you are a hard lover like myself, you have shared a lot of experiences and memories with him and have atune yourself to him, so you can't stop those thoughts, it can even be forever, but time heals and eventually you may be able to replace those memories. For now, how you respond to those feelings is what matters the most, you should have learned a lesson by now, that they are nothing more than fleeting joy, it doesn't last and it does not mean the relationship will. If I'm right, I would advise you seek for someone that will love you more than you love them and train yourself to reciprocate the love