Jun 20, 07:06 PM

Dating in My Mid-Twenties: A Horror Story

Sometimes I sit with myself and think: maybe I’m the problem. Maybe I want too much. Maybe love is not meant for me in this life. But deep down, I know I’m not asking for too much , I’m just asking for the right thing. For something genuine. For someone who sees the good heart I carry and says, “That’s the one.” After losing my fiancé ,someone I was with for six whole years — it hasn’t been easy. Trying again, starting over, and hoping again… it’s been draining. And every time I think I’ve found someone serious, it turns into disappointment. A new kind of silence. A different way of being left behind. And then the pressure comes from home. My parents look at me like I’m just too picky, like I want a man who is perfectly perfect. But what they don’t understand is — I’m not asking for perfection. I’m asking for peace. For effort. For intention. For someone who wants marriage, not just conversations that lead nowhere. I’m tired. I’m patient, but I’m tired. I just want someone I can talk to someone who sees me, understands me, respects me, and says, “Let’s build something real. maybe Allah see us through , a simple girl who's pouring her heavy heart,

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Jun 20, 09:26 PM
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Ameen, sis. Your words really touched me wallahi. It helps knowing I’m not the only one feeling this way it’s like we’re all trying to stay strong, hoping and praying. May Allah reward your patience too, and grant you someone who sees your worth and brings peace into your life. Let’s keep praying for each other, because this journey is not easy. But I believe Allah is watching all of us closely. Thank you so much for this comfort.
Jun 20, 09:57 PM
Anonymous Jun 20, 09:26 PM
Ameen, sis. Your words really touched me wallahi. It helps knowing I’m not the only one feeling this way it’s like we’re all trying to stay strong, hoping and praying. May Allah reward your pati[...] Ameen, sis. Your words really touched me wallahi. It helps knowing I’m not the only one feeling this way it’s like we’re all trying to stay strong, hoping and praying. May Allah reward your patience too, and grant you someone who sees your worth and brings peace into your life. Let’s keep praying for each other, because this journey is not easy. But I believe Allah is watching all of us closely. Thank you so much for this comfort.
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Ameen ya Rabb
Jun 21, 12:03 AM
Sorry I'm asking but please which state are you from?
Jun 21, 05:06 AM
Anonymous #2 Jun 21, 12:03 AM

Sorry I'm asking but please which state are you from?

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it's fine, am from yobe state
Jun 21, 11:54 AM
Anonymous Jun 20, 09:26 PM
Ameen, sis. Your words really touched me wallahi. It helps knowing I’m not the only one feeling this way it’s like we’re all trying to stay strong, hoping and praying. May Allah reward your pati[...] Ameen, sis. Your words really touched me wallahi. It helps knowing I’m not the only one feeling this way it’s like we’re all trying to stay strong, hoping and praying. May Allah reward your patience too, and grant you someone who sees your worth and brings peace into your life. Let’s keep praying for each other, because this journey is not easy. But I believe Allah is watching all of us closely. Thank you so much for this comfort.
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Do you maybe wanna be friends?? although I'm sort of an introvert so i might bore you sometimes because I might just have nothing to say.. We could help each other move forward in terms of our deen, prepare towards that which we await, just share our feelings with one another atleast knowing you have someone to share stuffs with and so on. We could just be online friends without even getting to know one another because my location is obviously far away from yours...
Jun 21, 01:10 PM
Anonymous #1 Jun 21, 11:54 AM
Do you maybe wanna be friends?? although I'm sort of an introvert so i might bore you sometimes because I might just have nothing to say.. We could help each other move forward in terms of our deen, [...] Do you maybe wanna be friends?? although I'm sort of an introvert so i might bore you sometimes because I might just have nothing to say.. We could help each other move forward in terms of our deen, prepare towards that which we await, just share our feelings with one another atleast knowing you have someone to share stuffs with and so on. We could just be online friends without even getting to know one another because my location is obviously far away from yours...
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Aww, that means a lot to me I’d really love that! I’m so glad you reached out, and I’m totally open to being friends and just having someone to talk to, even if it’s online. We can take our time and just chat comfortably. Feel free to share your email or I can send mine so we can keep in touch. 🤍
Jun 21, 01:35 PM
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received with thanks dear , will message you now
Jun 21, 01:43 PM
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please check your email
Jun 21, 01:46 PM
Anonymous Jun 21, 01:43 PM

please check your email

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okay
Jun 26, 06:34 AM
Smiles... you’re not the problem just because you haven’t found the right person yet. The issue is that most people don’t actually want to build. They want the comfort of companionship without the responsibility that comes with commitment. Losing your fiancé after six years isn’t a small ordeal Whether by death, betrayal, or separation.... it creates a deep void, and starting over is supposed to feel heavy. So the fact that it’s draining doesn’t mean you’re weak i t means you’re human, and you’re still healing ☺️ As for the pressure from home, you know how our parents can be, theyview relationships through the lens of settling down more than genuine connection. I can understand you're tired and that’s fair. It means you need to rest not lower your standards . Also the harsh truth is nowadays Relationships that last are rare because most people aren’t ready to give what they expect in return. keep your heart open don’t entertain maybes when what you want is someone sure. don’t pause your life. Build your peace. Be your own calm. May Allah see us through
Jun 26, 11:56 AM
MandM Jun 26, 06:34 AM
Smiles... you’re not the problem just because you haven’t found the right person yet. The issue is that most people don’t actually want to build. They want the comfort of companionship without t[...] Smiles... you’re not the problem just because you haven’t found the right person yet. The issue is that most people don’t actually want to build. They want the comfort of companionship without the responsibility that comes with commitment. Losing your fiancé after six years isn’t a small ordeal Whether by death, betrayal, or separation.... it creates a deep void, and starting over is supposed to feel heavy. So the fact that it’s draining doesn’t mean you’re weak i t means you’re human, and you’re still healing ☺️ As for the pressure from home, you know how our parents can be, theyview relationships through the lens of settling down more than genuine connection. I can understand you're tired and that’s fair. It means you need to rest not lower your standards . Also the harsh truth is nowadays Relationships that last are rare because most people aren’t ready to give what they expect in return. keep your heart open don’t entertain maybes when what you want is someone sure. don’t pause your life. Build your peace. Be your own calm. May Allah see us through
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Thank you for these words. You don’t know how much I needed to hear this today. May Allah reward you deeply for your kindness and wisdom. 🤍
Jun 26, 06:27 PM
Anonymous Jun 26, 11:56 AM

Thank you for these words. You don’t know how much I needed to hear this today. May Allah reward you deeply for your kindness and wisdom. 🤍

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Always welcome 🙂
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